Couples Counselling
Rebuild an intimate emotional and physical connection. Improve communication and establish a more resilient alliance and trusting relationship.
Friction in a relationship is not uncommon.
Most couples experience challenges over the course of their relationship. Our personal histories, relational experiences, and past hurts often contribute to some of the tough dynamics we fall into with our partners. Everyday stress can also influence our reactions and impact the sense of connection, intimacy, love, and trust we have as a couple. It can be difficult to maintain our own individual identity while also joining with one another. We often get stuck in our own needs not being met, making it hard to tune into our partner’s experience and leaving us feeling misunderstood or unheard.
Emotionally focused.
We often send signals to our partners to assess the security of the bond we share. We need to know if our partners are there for us, that we can count on them, and that they need and/or us as much as we need/desire them. When this is unclear, partners often respond with mixed signals, including shutting down (emotionally or physically), complaining, or criticizing. When we feel secure and safe in our relationship, we are more likely to feel confident in ourselves and have more independence as an individual. We are also more likely to work together to over come the inevitable bumps in the road that life throws at us.
Our aim:
It can be easy to get caught in a circular pattern, leading partners to feel distant, disconnected, and hopeless. My aim is to help couples step back and see the vicious cycle they get trapped in that leaves them feeling stuck and to help them find ways to break out of this dynamic. I help couples rebuild an intimate emotional and physical connection, improve communication, and establish a more resilient alliance and trusting relationship.
When working with couples, I use an approach called Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), which is based on attachment theory. This approach emphasizes emotional connection as a basic human need.
